Find a quiet place and work through these questions yourself, or get a friend, family member, or spouse, and work through them together.
What is North?
- One way to reveal what’s been “north” for us (despite what we’d like it to be) is to examine what throws us off our game the most. What makes you the most upset, anxious, or destabilizes you when it goes wrong? (Money? Something at work? Something in your relationships?)
- What do you think has been north for you recently? Another way to put it: How have you defined success? Be honest with yourself.
- Why? What’s the “why” behind what you’re doing—with your career, with your relationships, with your time? What’s the “why” behind what you’re working toward? What’s the “why” behind why you’re working so hard?
- When you look at what scripture says about where we place our trust and hope (see verses below), what does that reveal about your current definition of success, or your WHY? Are there discrepancies? Do you need to make any adjustments?
- Is there a statement, phrase, word, or verse you can use to remind you of true north? Write it down, and then make it count: share it with your friends and family. Allow them to hold you accountable to it. Keep it visible somewhere. Don’t lose sight of true north.
Who are you becoming?
- Think about when you’re at your best—when someone or some situation brings out the best in you. What qualities do you demonstrate when you’re at your best?
- How would the people who know and love you the most describe you when you’re at your best? (If you don’t know, ask them!)
- Consider the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), or what Paul describes when we become more like Jesus (Colossians 3:12-15 or 1 Corinthians 15:4-7, all included below): How do you rate yourself with the fruit of the spirit? How would your family/loved ones rate you in those areas? Which ones do you struggle with the most? How can you move toward one or more of those?
- Imagine that Future You is facing a conflict, uncertainty, stress, bad news, or not getting what you want. How would you like to be able to describe the way Future You handles those difficult situations? What would it look like for you to be WHO God is calling you to be in those moments?
- WHO do you feel like God is calling you to become? Try to write this down in a definitive statement, or make a list of a few defining qualities.
Example: God is calling me to become someone who trusts him, who is patient and loving and kind, even in uncertainty.
Reminder/Verses for True North and Who You’re Becoming
And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.
Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God.
We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.
Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace.
…the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7